As I’ve mentioned before I’m slowly reading ScreamFree Marriage (affiliate link) by Hal and Jenny Runkle. Well I’ve finally finished part one of the book and only have one slight criticism that I won’t share until I’ve finished the book. What I read last night was interesting and Paul Byerly touched on it in his […]
and it is NOT my spouse. Marriage Works! (@mrgwrks) tweet, “Ideally, spouses should be in competition against an unhealthy marriage [not one another]” reminded me of the first time my wife and I attended Family Life’s Weekend to Remember conference. At the conference one of the first things the facilitators told us to do was […]
This post is another about what Hal and Jenny Hunkle authors of ScreamFree Marriage (affiliate link) would call “Authentic Self-Representation” (ASR), and Dr. David Schnarch (affiliate link) would call “integrity.” Often in marriage we’ll choose to accept the unacceptable in the name of peace all the while realizing that what we are really doing is […]
This morning Lisa Merlo-Booth (@LisaMerloBooth) tweeted, “Get ur eyes off the other person & pay attention to what u’re doing. Control ur behaviors cuz u can’t control theirs.” Her tweet got me to thinking about the time we waste focusing on what we cannot control. This time would be much better spent on what we […]
As we talked about in Do You Have a High Drive? there is this unseen element at work in every marriage that I call the dichotomy of the high drive and low drive. This dichotomy more than any other thing will put pressure on your marriage. How well you and your spouse handle that pressure […]
I wandered over to Love and Respect Ministries today to see if Dr. Eggerichs had a blog. He does and the post that was up was one worth sharing. My Response is My Responsibility
As I mentioned in my last post I’m currently reading ScreamFree Marriage (affiliate link) by Hal and Jenny Hunkle. In chapter three the book discusses “Authentic Self-Representation” (ASR), Dr. David Schnarch (affiliate link) would call ASR “integrity.” Basically it is what it sounds like, authentically representing yourself to your spouse. If you haven’t read ScreamFree […]
You won’t catch me ragging on any specific ministries but there are some things that everyone should know. One of the signs of a good ministry is that they work on you and leave your spouse to God’s hand. Any marriage “ministry” that claims a poor marriage is sole the responsibility of the husband or […]
I’ve made mistakes. Who hasn’t? Hopefully, I’ve learned lessons from the mistakes that I’ve made. Those mistakes and lessons are a part of my experience. My experience is just that, my experience. One of the lessons that took me a little longer to learn was that my experience doesn’t equate to everyone’s experience. One of […]
Disclaimer: My wife has never made me lima beans. Thank you, Angel. You may think that the title of this post has to do with sex. Well, it does and it doesn’t. It has to do with preferences and how those preferences impact our marriage relationship. We are all entitled to our preferences. For example, […]
Disclaimer: I am not married to a stubborn, immature, selfish jerk, though I may be one on occasion. Love you Angel. For my first post I want to talk about the most difficult thing to deal with in any marriage and that’s a spouse that chooses to be a stubborn, immature, selfish jerk. In future postings, […]
