Experiences, Mistakes and Lessons

I’ve made mistakes.  Who hasn’t?  Hopefully, I’ve learned lessons from the mistakes that I’ve made.  Those mistakes and lessons are a part of my experience.  My experience is just that, my experience.  One of the lessons that took me a little longer to learn was that my experience doesn’t equate to everyone’s experience.

One of the more difficult lessons to learn was that there are marriages out there that include a stubborn, immature, selfish jerk who only thinks of themselves and nobody else.  It’s hard for me to understand that there are those out there that are so selfish that they don’t really care about working on a mutually beneficial marriage but are content with one that solely serves their needs.  Thankfully, here’s the disclaimer, I’m not married to that type of person but I really feel for those that are.

Okay, I’ve said all of that to say this: all of us have experiences that differ from one person to the next and we each give advice based on our own personal experience.  Just because I or someone else gives advice that doesn’t fit your experience it doesn’t invalidate your experience or the advice.

So, as we’re discussing the issues of marriage remember this caveat, just because the advice given doesn’t fit your experience doesn’t mean it doesn’t fit the person that is giving the advice’s experience and if it worked for them then it might work for the person to whom they are giving the advice.

Caveat two:  We’re not going to talk about helping around the house more, perhaps as a mature adult you need to be doing that anyway, or wearing sexy lingerie, perhaps as a mature adult you should show the confidence of a mature adult.  I consider these marriage 101 issues.  We’re looking for deeper answers to deeper questions.  We’re looking to move from immature angst toward being and acting like mature, confident adults.  So let’s leave the milk and let’s get to the meat.