Every marriage is different. The issues in each marriage are different. Every person is different. There may be common marital issues, finances, in-law interference, sex, etc. but really everyone’s experience is different. Too many hold their spouse responsible for the state of their marriage while doing little to be a better spouse and/or enabling their […]
The Price of Peace is Integrity
The cost of peace is integrity. When the price gets too high we break the peace. You cannot have your cake and eat it too. This is a two choice dilemma. I want to keep the cake and I want to eat the cake. To choose one makes the other impossible. The price that we […]
Hidden Desire
My apologies as it’s been quite awhile since I’ve posted anything. I’ve spent a busy summer watching my youngest playing a lot of baseball and haven’t had the time nor the inspiration to write. As I’ve said before, I won’t post just to be posting. I only post when I think I have something to […]
When the Price of Peace Gets Too High
What is the price you are paying for peace within your marriage? What part of yourself do you hide from your spouse to keep the peace in your marriage? What portion of your integrity are you selling out? Is it worth the price? We’ve all done it. We all hold back because to not do […]
Do You Want to be Wanted or Need to be N...
For some background on this post you’ll want to read Another Alternative over at Simple Marriage. Does your spouse need you? Do you need your spouse? How much does your spouse’s attitudes and actions affect you? Are you so entwined with your spouse that it is unclear where you stop and they begin? Is this […]
Naked and Unashamed
As a follow up to It’s Just Sex… I thought it would be a good idea to further explore the idea of how sex is more than “just sex.” Intimacy is more than a code word for sex. Intimacy in and of itself has a greater meaning in marriage beyond the physically intimate. Choosing to […]
What Do You Really Want?
As I’ve mentioned before I’m slowly reading ScreamFree Marriage (affiliate link) by Hal and Jenny Runkle. Well I’ve finally finished part one of the book and only have one slight criticism that I won’t share until I’ve finished the book. What I read last night was interesting and Paul Byerly touched on it in his […]
That’s Unacceptable. I’ll Take It!
This post is another about what Hal and Jenny Hunkle authors of ScreamFree Marriage (affiliate link) would call “Authentic Self-Representation” (ASR), and Dr. David Schnarch (affiliate link) would call “integrity.” Often in marriage we’ll choose to accept the unacceptable in the name of peace all the while realizing that what we are really doing is […]