A quote I read recently attributed to Laura Boyle made some things click for me. Control and intimacy are opposites. I can have one or the other, not both. ~Laura Doyle This quote clarified how Dr. David Schnarch’s (affiliate link) articles People Have Sex Within The Limits of Their Development, People Who Can’t Control Themselves […]
A good online friend posted something this week that I thought was truly profound. The idea that true change has to flow from the warm fuzzies about another person is just wrong. It’s unbiblical. For the Christian, true change flows from the heart that fully trusts God for salvation. It springs from the love we […]
In my non-online, real life I am challenged to live up to the ideals I espouse online. I’ve never said any of this is easy. In fact, I’m pretty sure I’ve said that it isn’t easy. It’s difficult. I am on record however of saying that working through the difficulties is worth the joy on […]
Intimacy is difficult A post by J at Hot, Holy & Humorous and another by Julie over at Intimacy in Marriage got me to thinking about intimacy in marriage and, no, I don’t just mean sex which spurned the Intimacy Isn’t Just a Code Word for Sex series. In the fist post of the series […]
A post by J at Hot, Holy & Humorous and another by Julie over at Intimacy in Marriage got me to thinking about intimacy in marriage and, no, I don’t just mean sex. In our last post I shared this definition for intimacy: Intimacy is the act of allowing someone to truly know the real […]
A post by J at Hot, Holy & Humorous and another by Julie over at Intimacy in Marriage got me to thinking about intimacy in marriage and, no, I don’t just mean sex. This is how I’d like us to define intimacy for this and all our discussions: Intimacy is the act of allowing someone […]
What’s your schedule look like? If it’s anything like our schedule it’s busy. We’ve got one son going to play practice and another going to baseball games and when there isn’t a game they’re practicing. On baseball game nights, which is most weeknights, anyone who goes to the game typically isn’t home until after 10:00PM, […]
The church at Corinth was having issues regarding sex and sent questions to the Apostle Paul about the issues they were facing. Below is a part of Paul’s answer to the church at Corinth. 1 Corinthians 7:1-6 Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations […]
There are a lot of hurting people out there. Many of them have been abused and the abuser is still controlling them years after the abuse has stopped. The abuse is reflected in the sexual menu of their marriage. There are strict limits on the sexual activities that these couples can experience together. Couples physical […]
Hot, Holy, and Humorous’ post Oral Sex: Better to Give and Receive, Volume 1 got me thinking about a couple of articles by Dr. David Schnarch over on PsychologyToday.com, Sexual Relationships Always Consist of ‘Leftovers’ and People Have Sex Within The Limits of Their Development. Together the three kind of inspired this post regarding oral […]
Marriage will reveal your immaturity and selfishness faster than anything. This has been rolling around in my head for the past few weeks. It’s something that I have to deal with in my life and I’m pretty sure that it’s an issue we all have to face to varying degrees at some point in our […]
Hello. It’s been awhile. Things have been very busy for me the past several months and, quite frankly, I haven’t had much time to think about writing let alone write anything. Well, today is different. I got inspired by a friend who is in a difficult marriage and wanted to share something for those of […]
What things are you doing to improve your marriage? What books are you reading (visit our store for some suggestions)? When was the last time you and your spouse attended a marriage enrichment event such as Weekend to Remember? When was the last time you planned a weekend trip for just you and your spouse? […]
There are things I don’t enjoy doing that I choose to do because others that I care about enjoy them. During this Holiday season a number of them have come up and, for the most part, I’ve dealt with them fairly maturely. I’ve found that controlling my own mental attitude toward those activities that I […]
