The eye cannot see what the mind cannot fathom. I’ve had the quote above in my draft box for months. I’ve known there is something in this quote for marriage but each time I’ve begun to write it just hasn’t been there. So, here’s the thing, we all have our blind spots, things or areas […]
What is Gatekeeping?
One of the questions that I get asked about marital sex is, what exactly is a gatekeeper? What does a gatekeeper do? Why is gatekeeping not a good thing? Well basically a gatekeeper allows for regular sex but only on their terms. They limit sex to only those things they are comfortable doing very seldom […]
Gotta Clue? Want One?
An exchange between a husband and a wife: Wife: What’s worse than not having a clue?Husband: What?Wife: Not WANTING a clue! Sadly, the state of many marriages is summed up in this humorous, humorous if you’re not living it, exchange. It is one thing to be blissfully ignorant, I mean, we don’t know what we […]
Karma in Marriage
I don’t believe in karma, I do believe that you reap what you sow though. Galatians 6:7 (NASB) Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap. In other words, if you kick the dog when you walk in the door at the end of the […]
How to Get What You Want in Marriage
Too often we’re trying the wrong things to get what we want out of our marriages. One of the craziest things that we try that very rarely works is denying your spouse what they want. I don’t know if it’s vindictiveness or what, but we try it and will continue at it for YEARS. At […]
Marriage Helper: Sexual Rejection’s Eff
Too good not to share: From Marriage Helper, Sexual Rejection’s Effect On A Marriage.
You May Think You’re Being Generous, Per
Perhaps you are no longer refusing your spouse sex and you feel you’re being a generous by going past your preference for less sex but don’t realize that you have moved from being an outright refuser of sex to a gatekeeper of sexual pleasure. What is the difference between a “refuser” and a “gatekeeper”? A […]
A Confession: What I Fear
There are times that I look at my wife and realize how little I know her even though I know her so well. I hope you understand that, or, perhaps I hope you don’t understand… The realization of how little I know about her forces me to face one of my greatest fears, never getting […]
Women’s Beauty and Sex, They Both Sell
Dove’s “Real Beauty” ad campaign has been making the rounds on Facebook and Twitter recently. I really liked what the blog little drops shared in regard to Dove’s campaign. While I am not female I do think that there is one issue here that affect men and women differently and that issue is society’s influence […]
Personal Callings and Personal Convictio...
I have friends who have been called to the mission field. It is their God ordained calling and I admire their faith and their service. Although I admire them, I am not called to their calling. God has other callings for me that require faith and service as well. Now, I could compare myself to […]
Are You Wooable?
I’ve been a member of The Marriage Bed Forum (TMB) since July of 2004. I think it’s a good community of believers committed to promoting Christian marriage. It’s a Christian forum on sex so it is also well moderated, which is what also makes it a good community. Very often a newbie will give marriage […]
Honorinig God With Our Bodies
Churches today teach a lot about sexual purity to young people. They teach half the truth, the part about not having sex, but are afraid to teach the whole truth. The rest of the story is that once you are married sexual purity changes from having no sex to having enough sex. 1 Corinthians 7:1-5 […]
Another Believable Lie
A good online friend posted something this week that I thought was truly profound. The idea that true change has to flow from the warm fuzzies about another person is just wrong. It’s unbiblical. For the Christian, true change flows from the heart that fully trusts God for salvation. It springs from the love we […]
It’s Called SELF-Confidence for a Reason
In my non-online, real life I am challenged to live up to the ideals I espouse online. I’ve never said any of this is easy. In fact, I’m pretty sure I’ve said that it isn’t easy. It’s difficult. I am on record however of saying that working through the difficulties is worth the joy on […]